When you’re chatting up a woman there’s a lot running through your mind. You’re trying to focus on her body language, on your body language, what she’s drinking and whether it would be worth the money to buy her another. You’ve got your nerves to handle if you’ve been out of the game for a while. With everything else that’s going on, sometimes your mouth can get away from you. Normally, that’s not too bad. As long as you don’t go way off book, you’ll still have her on the hook. But there are three topics you should never bring up that sound a lot like ones that are fine.
Never Talk About a Fat Girl
You might see a fat girl across the dance floor and be impressed that she had the nerve to turn up at this club. You might see a woman so ugly you’re surprised she doesn’t realize that makeup isn’t helping. You might know that the woman you’re talking to is ten thousand miles above these women in the looks department, and you want to share your impressions of the woman across the room. You probably don’t mean anything by it other than surprise. However, women are weird. To you, the woman you’re chatting up is way hotter than the woman you’re talking about. But to her mind? All of a sudden she’s conscious of those five extra pounds of jiggle you honestly don’t mind. She’s wondering if her lipstick is too bright, eyeliner too thick. When you criticize another woman, you’re setting off all kinds of alarm bells with the one you’re with.
Fights You’re Having Stay Out
When you’re talking about the way your co-worker is a total dick or your best friend screwed you over, you’re showing yourself to be angry, argumentative, and aggressive. Picking up a woman when you have these characteristics isn’t easy. This is the kind of stuff that they usually guard against. Plus, there’s always the chance that you’re not as perfect as you think. If you lay out your grievances, there’s always a chance that she’s going to side with the other guy.
Your Ex Doesn’t Belong Here
Let her go. Never, ever mention your ex. It would almost be better to pretend to be a virgin than to talk about your last girlfriend. You’re going to bring up a lot of emotions you shouldn’t deal with, and the woman you’re chatting up is going to wonder exactly how much baggage you’re still dragging around. Plus, all the comparison problems are going to jump out from the first point, as she wonders whether or not she shares qualities with the woman you dumped.
If you want to keep the flirting going, don’t touch any one of these topics with a ten foot pole. Keep your mind on happier subjects that cast you in a better light. None of these are going to do anything but kill the conversation and your chance to score.