It’s not easy being a nerd. You’ve got this whole expectation to fit into the cool nerd crowd if you want to get any sort of sex, everyone else picks on you, and you are naturally less comfortable around women. That’s all thanks to those awful school experiences too. While it’s by no means easy, you can suppress all of your nerdy instincts when talking to a woman. You just have to practice a bit first.
Read up on other nerds who have conquered their fears of women. They may have some pretty valuable advice for you. Once you’ve gotten a general idea of how to start talking to them (taking the first step, diving in and saying hello, or even just talking about the weather), you can subscribe to websites that have real articles written by real guys. We’ve got a ton to go off of, so you shouldn’t feel too lost.
Think Outside of Your Box
For a quick dive into emergency contact with a female there’s an old standby: do the opposite. If you’re really bad with dealing with women then do the exact opposite of what you normally would. Do you see an opportunity for a terrible pun? Don’t take it. Would you normally punch her arm in this situation? Keep your hands to yourself. Unless your actions say “Be a total gentleman and invite her out on a date” you can safely assume that you should only be talking at this point.
Avoid Touching Her
Things can get so awkward when touching is involved. While you may want to try the smooth moves you see in James Bond, most likely you’ll end up hurting someone instead of dipping her low for a kiss. Even worse than that is plain old incorrect touching. Putting your arm around her to comfort her can be a very sweet gesture that will get you sex. But putting your arm around her when you don’t know her well enough is uncomfortable. The same can be said for your hands. Flat palms on a curvy body don’t fit well, and you’ll end up looking creepy and antisocial.
Pick the type of guy you’d ideally be around a woman. Are you the next man of mystery? Or perhaps the soul-gazing romance hero is your bag like the character of Ryan gosling in Notebook, whatever it is that you choose, go out and find that man in a movie. Then watch everything that you can on him. He’s obviously going to be a huge exaggeration on the stereotype, but you are a real person who can tone that down. Study the language that he uses and his mannerisms. Having these to fall back on as a safety net should ease some of the weird nerd that could come bursting out at any moment. Of course, once you start to really get her attention adding in some of that nerd won’t be such a bad thing. It’s just getting past the first stage that’s the hard part.