Fireworks at the beginning of a relationship are one of the best feelings in the world. She likes you, you think you might love her, and both of you want to talk to each other all the time. Things are going great, but after about three weeks she stops texting you as much. Your conversations go down from an hour to 20 minutes. When you try to ask her what’s up, she just says that she’s not feeling it and should really be focusing on school or her career. It’s a letdown and it’s confusing as hell. So what gives? It’s not that she doesn’t like you, but there’s something you did wrong.
At first it’s going to be nearly impossible not to rush in head first. There’s a certain amount of time, though, that that’s a good thing. After about a week you should really be trying to slow down. Of course you should still be crazy over her and let her know it. But going in to tell her your life story and what your babies are going to look like together is either a turn off or too much. Taking the time to build up your relationship will make her stick around a lot longer.
Have a Strategy
Calling her all the time or constantly seeing her is sort of like owning a store buy giving away all of your goods for free. The things that make you interesting will be what you want to barter with. She gives you a little something; you give her a little something. It’s a win-win for both of you. She’ll be turned on by learning more about her mystery man and you’ll be entranced with her.
How to Keep It Going
Talking on the phone for hours is a killer because you’re spending all of that time with a phone to your face instead of sitting next to her. The phone is only for making dates with her. If she asks you to text her or just goes ahead and sends you a message, ignore it. Talking on the phone to make plans is ideal, and then you get to exchange info when you hang out. Texting back and forth is the easiest way to sweet-talk someone, which might seem ideal to you. But it’s also the easiest way to get rejected. That’s because there’s a very low level of commitment. Plus using a nonverbal communication gives a level of hardness that people use to not feel bad when they reject someone.
Always being there for her and telling her that you live for her calls isn’t being confident. Telling her that you’ll just be hanging out on the sidelines, waiting for her is not confident. She doesn’t want a guy who’s just going to lose his backbone when she’s not being the perfect perky future girlfriend figure. Stepping off when she does so will make her wonder why you haven’t called and how she can get you to again.