The first line of your message is like the first thirty seconds of getting to know a woman. You either make a great impression here or you don’t, and not making a good impression means that you’re probably not going to get so much as a message back, let alone a date. If you want to get her attention, you have a few sentences in which to do it, tops. The key is to tailor you approach to the woman you’re working on—or at least her type.
The Selfie Machine
If the woman you’re looking at has a lot of photos on her profile you know she wants physical attention. If all or most of them are selfies, double jackpot. You should open with a sincere compliment about her body. If she says that she’s into hookups and sex, you can go ahead and say what you really think. Compliment her body the way it should be complimented, and the way that she clearly wants. If she seems a little less into casual sex than that, change “boobs” to “eyes” in your opening message, and you’ll have the kind of compliment that will get her attention.
The Intellectual Snob
If her profile is loaded with books and movies designed to make her sound cultured and snooty, play into this. Open with a compliment about her tastes, but make it a little less open and honest. Instead of telling her that you like her taste in books, tell her that it’s so rare to see someone on this website with real literary taste that you just had to talk to her. Don’t worry about laying it on too thick. These woman love to hear how unique and smart they are. If you don’t actually know what she’s talking about but you still think she’s hot, don’t worry. Look up a plot summary on Wikipedia and you’ll be able to follow along with her conversations about it. When it doubt, agree with her. That’ll keep her around for a long time.
The Shy Girl
If she has a lot of comments on her profile designed to cut her down, you’re dealing with a shy girl. If “I’m not very good at filling things out” is one or more of her summaries about herself, you’ve actually hit the jackpot. With so little to work off of, most guys would pass her by. By the time you get to her, she’ll be so eager for male attention that so long as you open with something nice, it’ll work. Try to make your opening lines seem friendly and casual. Say you liked her photo, and you’re hope she’s having a good day. Bring up something happening locally, like a weather condition or a sports team winning the championship. Get small talk going and she’ll be so surprised that you’re a nice guy that she’ll do whatever you like.
By targeting your opening lines to the type of woman you’re interacting with, you’ll up your success rate and stop wasting your time sending out messages she never replies to.