When you have a fling going on with a woman and she asks about the two of you becoming serious, one of the worst things you can do is a use typical lie that she’s heard before. Instead of making it seem like you’re avoiding dating her, turn it around and make the situation more about her than you.
You Have a Lot Going On
When you tell your fling that you have a lot going on, she will automatically know that you are seeing someone else and it will piss her off. When you tell your fling this, you are basically telling her that she’s good enough for you to have sex with, but not good enough for anything else. When a woman feels like this, she can try to do things to sabotage the relationship that you have with your wife or your girlfriend.
Instead of telling her that you have a lot going on, try telling her that you want to take things slow if the two of you begin dating. Tell her that you’re not opposed to dating her, but that you don’t want to rush into couple things due to your previous bad breakup. If she asks about going out on dates, set it up where you’re visiting her place and having dinner and watching movies as a date. If she questions why the two of you never go out, try telling her because you don’t do well with in public places. Do not use this excuse if you met her at a public place as this will backfire on you.
You Don’t Do Well with Commitment
This is another lie that will be sure to piss your fling off. Again, she will know that you have involved someone else. Instead of telling her that you don’t do well with commitment, try telling her that your last girlfriend cheated on you and you have a hard time trusting women. This is a great lie to tell your fling, as she will probably be able to relate to it. The best part is that she won’t push you toward a relationship with her. Instead of the focus being on you, it will change to her wanting to prove to you that you can trust her.
The next time you call your fling and she doesn’t answer, stop calling her. When she returns your call, don’t answer her right away. In fact, wait a few days to return her call or don’t return it at all unless she keeps trying to get in contact with you. When she finally does, tell her that you just assumed she was doing her own thing and that you didn’t want to get in her way. Again, the focus will be on her trying to make you see that she wants to be with you.