All night you’ve been making eyes with the red head at the bar. She’s definitely smiling, so you decide that it’s time to make your move. With as much style as you can muster, you walk over and offer to buy her a drink. There’s banter back and forth, she’s giggling, and you’re playing it so cool. Then, when you go in for her phone number, she gives it over without a single qualm. You go back to your friends, thinking that you’re the man for the rest of the night. But the next day when you go to dial her up, it’s actually the local diner. So what went wrong?
She Doesn’t Mean What She Says
Women are notorious for not saying what they mean. All that time that you thought you were seriously turning her on she was actually just saying what she thought you’d like to hear. Why would she do that? Because she wants some free drinks for the night. You just happened to be a gullible guy who played into it. The key to not falling for that trap is to actually decode the conversation. Don’t worry; we’ve got a handbook for you.
“I Really Like Your (insert item here)”
If she’s started complimenting you after you approach her she’s trying to get you into her. By pointing out, and most likely touching, your jacket, pants, hat, etc. she’s poking at your subconscious. People love when others notice something about them and tell them that it looks nice. It doesn’t matter the gender either. Plus, adding a subtle touch will subconsciously make you feel like she’s getting a deeper connection with you. Going through all of this will make you more likely to buy her that drink. It seems like a lot of hassle but the truth of the matter is that women are fairly well versed in the subterfuge that is getting someone to want them. Although for most women it’s not hard to get a guy’s attention.
“Oh, My Friends And I Already Have Plans Tonight.”
“She doesn’t want to go out with you”
This seems fairly legit, right? Women go out in groups and of course they’d have a plan for the evening. Except probably not. Most of the time groups go out in search of a good time. They might have a general idea of what they want to do, but nothing is concrete. If she wanted you badly enough, her plans wouldn’t matter. When women want to have sex with a man, or even just like him in general they’ll often go out of their way to accommodate him. Maybe she drags him along with her or asks her friends to change what they’re doing. Even if that’s not possible she’ll still exchange numbers to meet up at a bar later. Sometimes they’ll just get together and hook-up for the night. The point here is that if she doesn’t even move to try and include you in the rest of her evening she just plain doesn’t want you in it.