The entire time that you’ve spent together this evening has been magical. There was a lot of laughing and lingering gazes between the two of you. She did that girly giggle that makes you melt and at the end of the night you kiss her. It’s passionate, sexy, and sensual. Nothing could be better. Hell, after this you’ll probably start being boyfriend and girlfriend. Your mom is really going to like her. Probably because you’ll have a girlfriend who’s good enough to be a mom herself. Your kids are going to be beautiful.
Whoa, Slow Down
It might seem like this is a dream and there’s no going downhill from here. But the fact of the matter is that you’ve only been on a date with her. One date. Even a few dates don’t qualify for that train of thought. All that you’re going to accomplish with telling her that is scaring her away. Even if you don’t tell her all of your secret marriage dreams you’re going to end up acting different abound her just because you’re thinking about it.
What to Do Instead
Slow the hell down. That’s right. If you want to make this last you’re going to have to take your time with this girl. She’s beautiful, smart, and funny. Most likely she’ll have other guys that want her too. You’re the lucky one who gets to try to win her over. So take your time getting to know her and telling her about yourself. Everything gets boring eventually, and the same goes for relationships. Taking your time with the information and memories you will create lengthens the excitement from the get go.
Keeping It Real
As corny as it sounds, you’re going to have to remind yourself to slow down. Get a small notepad that you can carry around with you. Inside of it make a schedule of contact. You can only text her five times a week (or six or three, whatever works for you) and you can only call to set up dates. All of your talking should happen when you actually see each other. Don’t give yourself any leeway with this, either. Set a number that you’ll stick to but doesn’t overdo how much you talk to her.
After you’ve gotten a schedule down, leave it alone. Of course you can think about her, but constantly having her on your mind is going to make things worse. Get out a video game or go online. Something to get you to focus on other things will be key in getting those nasty marriage thoughts out of your head.