You’re Scaring Her
Sometimes you may not know it, but your persistence may actually be scaring her. If she expresses interest in you, don’t mess up your chances by suddenly becoming too forward or flirtatious. Women like to play the game of cat and mouse. Let her be the mouse. Chase her a little bit before attempting to make any type of move on her, but also remember to give her some space. You can look for things such as a woman’s body language or where she directs her gaze in order to tell whether or not you’re starting to turn her off by being too direct. If she starts leaning away from you, or looking like she’s searching for someone in the crowd, chances are she’s ready to break free from you.
A way you can prevent coming on too strong is by making sure you give her adequate space. For example, buy her a drink and chat with her a bit before excusing yourself to the restroom or to some other area of the bar or club. Do not stare at her from across the room after you’ve left her and do not linger around her. Come back a little while later and sit down next to her if the space is free. Feel free to flirt and make small talk, but do not ask her if she wants to leave with you. The longer you talk to her will help you decide what she wants to do with you. If she’s looking into your eyes or leaning toward you, chances are, she’s ready for you to make the next move. If not, continue just chatted with her until she grows comfortable with you.
Don’t Be Too Lewd
Women are all for flirting, but sometimes men can take it too far. If you know you’re going out with the intention to hook up with women, make sure you don’t do too much drinking. Women don’t want you to tell them what things you’d be willing to do to them sexually. They don’t want to know about what sexual positions you enjoy or how you can give them the time of their lives. You need to save that type of flirting for when you already have her in the bed with you.
Instead, keep any type innuendos or remarks that relate to sex few and far between. Don’t try to cover yourself by telling her you’re just kidding. She knows you really aren’t.
You don’t have to come on strong to pickup women. In fact, most women prefer a man who is suave. You need to make her want you, and you do that by charming her, not by talking about sex the entire night.